These are the few lines of a hit song from the film 3 Idiots. The film was one of the most entertaining and must enjoyed by all. It was a good film depicting the story of the three friends and their rendezvous at the Engineering College, touted to be one of the best engineering college in India, as shown in the film. The movie shows a character called JOY, wherein he fails to finish his project, while he was working on something else. The Dean refuses to give him extra time to finish his allotted project. Dean himself calls up the Joy's father saying that his father should not come to city, to attend the convocation his son ,as he will not pass his exams this year. The pressure of failure forces that guy to commit suicide.
The depiction of the feeling of failure and depression of the students was so powerful that few students throughout the country started committing suicide for the fear of failure. It was the craftsmanship of the director of the film, Rajkumar Hirani, who was successful in creating an atmosphere of sympathy towards the that character called JOY and hate towards the system, teachers, principals and parents, who always insisted that children must get the best.
The message here, is something which has gone wrong completely. Children or rather the students have taken it in their own way. All kudos to R. Hirani, who created a master piece and he created a situation where students started to think that the parents or which I will define as COMMUNITY OF ELDERS, which includes their fathers, teachers, principals, tuition teachers or coaching class faculty, or all those who have been insisting that their child or student, whatever may the name or the role as defined.
The children have started to think that this COE is actually their enemy and they are all devils. The situation has worsened so much after the film that any student or child who is not capable of anything, pulls up his sleeve against the COE, who actually speaks for their betterment and wishes that they stay out of the world of depression, they could face, if they are not warned in advance. The young man of today's thinks he can manage the whole show, the way he had been managing his/her mother, manipulating or even blackmailing his father and fooling around with the those who want to get better things out of them.
This community of COE-bashing little think about what they want them to do ! When the parents shout at their child, he wishes that the difficulties in which he survived, does not get repeated with his child. Father is the community, which is highly and very badly affected in entire of this drama. He is always blackmailed by his son/daughter, always forced on knees by his wife for entertaining wishes of his wife to follow the dictates of their child, loosen the pocket for paying all the expenses, related with the studies and all other fantasies of the life.
3 Idiots character of FARHAN, whose father saves money for his son to become engineer, buys an Air Conditioner for him, buys Laptop for his studies, does all that he could do, but the guy in the film has never told his father that he wanted to become a wild life photographer, ever !
The audiences' sympathy was with Farhan, why, I do not understand ! Does the audience and even that Character Farhan, thinks that his father was GOD and knew everything about his aspiration to become wild life photographer ?
What was his father's fault ? He must have known his son from his childhood days, that thsi chap never knows what he actually wanted and for that reason only he had thought that to groom him as an engineer, would be perfectly alright so that he can live his life peacefully and enjoy all the luxuries of the life ! It is logical to think that his father must have thought that way. Was he wrong in his place ?
Mr. Hirani, perhaps, ended up depicting only one side of the story ! he perfectly created sympathy wave for the 3 chaps, who were shown as the guys who always wanted to live their own life ! They were shown as their parents were forcing them to study harder and leave other things in the life.
Imagine, if Rancho was not supposed to have come to the life of the other two guys, who despite the company of Rancho, always were last in the raw for annual photo session ! And Rancho never ever inspired them to learn and study harder. They along with Chatur, were shocked to learn that Rancho stood first in their annual exams !
The children across the country watched this film with fun, and few took it seriously, starting a spate of suicides amongst the students fraternity. That was absolute injustice to those who were in grief due to the suicides. But have any father or mother or teacher committed suicides, when the film showing children go bad in a film and becomes a goon or smuggler or something like that ? Nobody showed the any amount sympathy towards parents when their children failed or did very badly in their exams and they were convinced that their child would be a complete failure !
I agree that few parents make life of their child hell, they need psychological treatment. It is their excessive depression and fear of failure for their child. They indirectly take the child into remand and use different methods of third degree treatment. But how many of them in the entire country ? If they are wrong they must be punished also. Each every parent needs to be cautious about their own child.
Having aspiration for a child and then working on the same aspiration is not abnormal for father or mother or teacher ! It is not a crime to dream about the future of his child. What is wrong if parents are telling their ward to study harder, it will benefit them in their future life.
All during the film, why was not a single child was shown as watching TV serials of Ekta Kapoor, where even a 9 year one says who is going to have an affair with whom ! Why does nobody considers throwing out computers when they are used for chatting, wasting time on Face Book status updates and writing on wall of Orkut ?
Actually the problem is much bigger than it is made to be by the film. The problem has its roots in our subservient attitude. We have been slaves throughout our known History, which is recorded. We have been cultural slaves to the Mughal robbers, which came to India from Turkey and then we were economical slaves to Britishers for more than 150 years. Somewhere down deep in the mind of every Indian this slavery is living and has not died so far. He is so obsessed with the slavery syndrome, that he reviews himself at each and every point to make sure he has not turned into slave! Once assured that he has been saved through his life and has escaped from slavery he starts worrying for his child and what follows with his child is the fear that though he was saved during his life span, but he is not sure about his child so for the whole life he ran for himself first and then started running for his child.
Along with that the generation gap fact has also its role in here. The time has changed and has changed very rapidly. Within a span of 5 years the change is so fast that it becomes depressing sometimes. Parents are not that quick to catch up with their kids. It is high time that the both, parents and kids need to change and understand each other. But it will never happen. Parents will be readied somehow to change but the kids will remain adamant, depressing their parents further and then the tiff follows.
The more stunning and shocking news is coming up, is, the Govt. under pressure (whose ? we are not aware!), are bringing in the law which will prohibit the present centuries old practice of parents/teachers thrashing not-obeying children, in their interest, will now face even imprisonment for doing their duty of preventing an idiot from becoming a goon or a rowdy citizen of this country. These very same policies of USA & EUROPE broke family bond with parents, the same path is chosen by the Govt of India. Govt is wanting to limit the role of parents in career building of a child. It wants more slaves who are clueless and have no motive in their lives as we find Americans and Europeans wandering and finding for peace of their undeveloped and unsupported mind. They do not have the warmth of the family and respectful fear of their parents.
But does the Govt thinks about the imprisoning those idiots who fail to support their parents in their old age, those who humiliate their parents for their so-called share in properties? The Govt's knee-jerk reactions to the problem of suicidal tactics of students needs to be tackled in different manner. Besides the Govt needs to have social securities for the old aged people strengthened before indulging in such issues, where the old people will be left at the mercy of their children !
The entire issue needs much more sincere approach and understanding. The parents are perhaps needs to be blamed for over-doing what they are doing to nurture their child at the same time the children must understand the slavery approach. Their parents want them to retain the freedom to what they wish to do in their life! Such freedom is realized only when they actually experience the freedom. Being on top and deciding decisively about their future, is the freedom that the parents envisage for their children !
The discussion is long and perhaps the solution lies with the everybody and they can contribute by expressing on this particular issue and educate others, solution lies somewhere in between.
The depiction of the feeling of failure and depression of the students was so powerful that few students throughout the country started committing suicide for the fear of failure. It was the craftsmanship of the director of the film, Rajkumar Hirani, who was successful in creating an atmosphere of sympathy towards the that character called JOY and hate towards the system, teachers, principals and parents, who always insisted that children must get the best.
The message here, is something which has gone wrong completely. Children or rather the students have taken it in their own way. All kudos to R. Hirani, who created a master piece and he created a situation where students started to think that the parents or which I will define as COMMUNITY OF ELDERS, which includes their fathers, teachers, principals, tuition teachers or coaching class faculty, or all those who have been insisting that their child or student, whatever may the name or the role as defined.
The children have started to think that this COE is actually their enemy and they are all devils. The situation has worsened so much after the film that any student or child who is not capable of anything, pulls up his sleeve against the COE, who actually speaks for their betterment and wishes that they stay out of the world of depression, they could face, if they are not warned in advance. The young man of today's thinks he can manage the whole show, the way he had been managing his/her mother, manipulating or even blackmailing his father and fooling around with the those who want to get better things out of them.
This community of COE-bashing little think about what they want them to do ! When the parents shout at their child, he wishes that the difficulties in which he survived, does not get repeated with his child. Father is the community, which is highly and very badly affected in entire of this drama. He is always blackmailed by his son/daughter, always forced on knees by his wife for entertaining wishes of his wife to follow the dictates of their child, loosen the pocket for paying all the expenses, related with the studies and all other fantasies of the life.
3 Idiots character of FARHAN, whose father saves money for his son to become engineer, buys an Air Conditioner for him, buys Laptop for his studies, does all that he could do, but the guy in the film has never told his father that he wanted to become a wild life photographer, ever !
The audiences' sympathy was with Farhan, why, I do not understand ! Does the audience and even that Character Farhan, thinks that his father was GOD and knew everything about his aspiration to become wild life photographer ?
What was his father's fault ? He must have known his son from his childhood days, that thsi chap never knows what he actually wanted and for that reason only he had thought that to groom him as an engineer, would be perfectly alright so that he can live his life peacefully and enjoy all the luxuries of the life ! It is logical to think that his father must have thought that way. Was he wrong in his place ?
Mr. Hirani, perhaps, ended up depicting only one side of the story ! he perfectly created sympathy wave for the 3 chaps, who were shown as the guys who always wanted to live their own life ! They were shown as their parents were forcing them to study harder and leave other things in the life.
Imagine, if Rancho was not supposed to have come to the life of the other two guys, who despite the company of Rancho, always were last in the raw for annual photo session ! And Rancho never ever inspired them to learn and study harder. They along with Chatur, were shocked to learn that Rancho stood first in their annual exams !
The children across the country watched this film with fun, and few took it seriously, starting a spate of suicides amongst the students fraternity. That was absolute injustice to those who were in grief due to the suicides. But have any father or mother or teacher committed suicides, when the film showing children go bad in a film and becomes a goon or smuggler or something like that ? Nobody showed the any amount sympathy towards parents when their children failed or did very badly in their exams and they were convinced that their child would be a complete failure !
I agree that few parents make life of their child hell, they need psychological treatment. It is their excessive depression and fear of failure for their child. They indirectly take the child into remand and use different methods of third degree treatment. But how many of them in the entire country ? If they are wrong they must be punished also. Each every parent needs to be cautious about their own child.
Having aspiration for a child and then working on the same aspiration is not abnormal for father or mother or teacher ! It is not a crime to dream about the future of his child. What is wrong if parents are telling their ward to study harder, it will benefit them in their future life.
All during the film, why was not a single child was shown as watching TV serials of Ekta Kapoor, where even a 9 year one says who is going to have an affair with whom ! Why does nobody considers throwing out computers when they are used for chatting, wasting time on Face Book status updates and writing on wall of Orkut ?
Actually the problem is much bigger than it is made to be by the film. The problem has its roots in our subservient attitude. We have been slaves throughout our known History, which is recorded. We have been cultural slaves to the Mughal robbers, which came to India from Turkey and then we were economical slaves to Britishers for more than 150 years. Somewhere down deep in the mind of every Indian this slavery is living and has not died so far. He is so obsessed with the slavery syndrome, that he reviews himself at each and every point to make sure he has not turned into slave! Once assured that he has been saved through his life and has escaped from slavery he starts worrying for his child and what follows with his child is the fear that though he was saved during his life span, but he is not sure about his child so for the whole life he ran for himself first and then started running for his child.
Along with that the generation gap fact has also its role in here. The time has changed and has changed very rapidly. Within a span of 5 years the change is so fast that it becomes depressing sometimes. Parents are not that quick to catch up with their kids. It is high time that the both, parents and kids need to change and understand each other. But it will never happen. Parents will be readied somehow to change but the kids will remain adamant, depressing their parents further and then the tiff follows.
The more stunning and shocking news is coming up, is, the Govt. under pressure (whose ? we are not aware!), are bringing in the law which will prohibit the present centuries old practice of parents/teachers thrashing not-obeying children, in their interest, will now face even imprisonment for doing their duty of preventing an idiot from becoming a goon or a rowdy citizen of this country. These very same policies of USA & EUROPE broke family bond with parents, the same path is chosen by the Govt of India. Govt is wanting to limit the role of parents in career building of a child. It wants more slaves who are clueless and have no motive in their lives as we find Americans and Europeans wandering and finding for peace of their undeveloped and unsupported mind. They do not have the warmth of the family and respectful fear of their parents.
But does the Govt thinks about the imprisoning those idiots who fail to support their parents in their old age, those who humiliate their parents for their so-called share in properties? The Govt's knee-jerk reactions to the problem of suicidal tactics of students needs to be tackled in different manner. Besides the Govt needs to have social securities for the old aged people strengthened before indulging in such issues, where the old people will be left at the mercy of their children !
The entire issue needs much more sincere approach and understanding. The parents are perhaps needs to be blamed for over-doing what they are doing to nurture their child at the same time the children must understand the slavery approach. Their parents want them to retain the freedom to what they wish to do in their life! Such freedom is realized only when they actually experience the freedom. Being on top and deciding decisively about their future, is the freedom that the parents envisage for their children !
The discussion is long and perhaps the solution lies with the everybody and they can contribute by expressing on this particular issue and educate others, solution lies somewhere in between.
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